Before I begin, I just wanna say, I truly believe that most people want the best for themselves. Most of us have some sort of plan or idea of building a successful life, whatever that entails for each of us specifically. We want to do well in all aspects of life… our career, the gym, our love lives, etc. But, the same time, lots of people are OK with just coasting by and doing the bare minimum. My writing today is for both of these kinds of people.
You might be saying to yourself, “I’m not one of those people.” And you could be right. You say things, you set goals, you talk about plans. But unfortunately, what we plan for does not always happen. What we say does not always mean what we do. We sometimes fall short, and we don’t always follow up.
To find and keep success in life, you need to be able to hold yourself accountable. Basically, you need to be able to call yourself on your own shit. This is way easier said, than done. Most people are completely and utterly incapable of admitting they’re wrong, admitting they’re not doing enough, or admitting they’re just straight up lazy.
Being accountable is literally as simple as this: say what you’re going to do, and then do it.
Keep in mind, I said simple, not easy.
You should be holding yourself to the highest standard of all.
You should realize that a long-term change or goal requires small, meticulous details that are required every day!!!
Successful people, in my eyes, are those that choose excellence, work hard, and pay attention to detail, in every aspect of life. They want to excel in all areas, not just one. They don’t take the easy way out. They do the work when it needs to be done, they don’t make excuses, and they call themselves on their own shit.
At the end of the day, you are accountable for your own success. You are in control of your actions and decisions, therefore you need to be responsible for them.
First, you need to be clear with yourself of your intentions. Your intentions for yourself should be reasonable, but high! Do you want that promotion at your job? Do you want to buy a house by the end of the year? Do you want to lose 20 pounds?
Then, how are you going to implement it?
At your job, are you going to keep learning new skills? Continue your education? Make your intentions known to your superiors?
For your upcoming home ownership, how much money are you going to save? Are you going to come up with a budget? How are you going to strengthen your credit score? Do you have ideas of areas you would like to live in?
To lose weight, do you have a deadline? Are you going to do weekly weigh-ins? Measurements? Food logs? Workout plans?
Now comes the hardest part, effort. Effort, is in fact, a choice. You make a decision every work day, every meal, every workout, every dollar spent, if you’re working towards that goal, or taking a step back from it. And realizing that can be very difficult.
It’s hard to take a step back and realize how many conscious decisions we make. There are a ton of things in life we cannot control, but it’s in fact quite scary to fully realize how much we do have control over. It’s all about taking ownership of your choices and their consequences.
Your alarm goes off, and you hit that snooze button twice, rush to get out of bed, get stuck in five extra minutes of traffic, and end up being fifteen minutes late to work. When the alarm went off, you had two choices: get out of bed, or hit the snooze. You consciously chose to hit the snooze. But of course, if this is the situation, most would blame it on the traffic. Right?
Every time you buy something you don’t need, you are making a conscious choice to do so. Dinners out with friends and family, unnecessary snacks at the grocery store, another pair of sweatpants or a sweatshirt… every time you purchase something outside of your intended budget, you are taking money away from what you really need it for. Point blank period.
If there is food in front of you, good or bad, you make a decision whether to put it in your mouth or not. Every bite (or no bite) is either getting you closer to your weight loss goals, or farther away. The choice is YOURS. If you take that bite of cake, you’re basically saying to yourself, “This temporary satisfaction is more important than my long-term goals.”
Just let all that sink in for a sec.
I don’t try to be a hard-ass, I just want everyone reading this to realize how truly simple it is. It’s so easy to put the blame on others. It’s really hard to come to terms with the fact that the only person responsible, is yourself.
That’s what accountability is. And this is where your effort matters.
Once you make your intentions clear, and execute a plan, it needs to be followed through. This is the part where you actually do what you say you’re going to do. This is where it comes down to the daily, small changes in your habits.
I’ll just go ahead and keep using the examples I’ve been using: a job promotion, home ownership, and weight loss.
At work, know that you are going to have to bring a positive attitude. Every day. Get there early. Stay late. Willingly look for more responsibilities. Ask for what you want. Every day do something that makes you stand out from the rest of the pack.
When it comes to your money, stick to your budget, don’t stray far off from it. Notice things you use are unnecessary , that can be reused or recycled, or that you can temporarily do without. Limit expenses like heat, electric, cell use… anything that can reduce the size of your bills.
To shed those extra pounds, get help from a professional, that you can check in with pretty often. Track your calories and macros. Don’t skip a workout. Don’t have unnecessary snack foods and treats around. Stick to the plan. Opt for the stairs and stay active as much as you can.
Get the jist here? Every thing I just listed, for each situation, are things that need to be done daily. That’s the key. Small changes, every day, over time, leading to huge results. That’s how we get what we want out of life. This can be applied to any situation.
Intention, Implementation, Effort. YOU GOT THIS!