It’s about that time of year again… that weird time in between Christmas & New Years when we don’t really know what’s going on or even what day it is.
Maybe your eating habits went to shit in the past week.
Maybe you’re exhausted from driving all over to visit your family or your significant other’s family.
Maybe you’re stressing about all the money you spent on Christmas gifts.
Maybe you’ve been binge-watching Netflix and become more anxious as it gets closer and closer to the day you have to go back to work.
We spend this time getting out all of our bad habits. Come January 1st, it’s a new year, 2018. New year, new you, right? This magic day comes and all of the sudden we’ve become experts on how to change our lives. Because it happens in one day, right?
Not quite. If you want to make a change in your life– whatever it may be, if you want it, and I mean really want it– you’re not going to wait. You’re going to do it right now. Not tomorrow, not Monday, not January 1st.
Why do you need a new year to be a better person? To change your diet? To start working out? To make more time for your boyfriend/girlfriend? To start meditating? To disconnect from social media? To limit your spending? If you want to do it, quite frankly, just do it.
Often times when we come up with a “goal” for our New Years resolution, it’s going to fail. I put the word goal in quotation marks because it’s actually not a goal. It’s just a person saying they’re going to do something. Unless you sit down and plan out the small, daily changes you are going to take to make this plan happen… it’s not a goal. Point, blank, period. (If you haven’t read my previous blog about goal-setting, you should).
Chances are, last year you had a resolution that didn’t go quite as planned. And the year before. And the year before. See the pattern? It all sounds well and good in our mind… maybe it works for a few weeks, or a few months. But it almost always never lasts. As soon as we lose motivation, it’s over with. Let me tell you- motivation will come, and it will go. Some days you will want to complete that task, some days you won’t. What comes, and stays, always, is discipline.
People who are disciplined don’t wait until a Monday to start a fitness program. People who are disciplined don’t let the holidays throw their diet into the garbage. People who are disciplined get the work done when they feel like it, and they also get the work done when they don’t feel like it. They make time for the things they want to make time for. They don’t do things that aren’t necessary. Every thing that they are in control of, they handle.
What I suggest you should do, instead of coming up with a New Years resolution, is to sit down and reflect on your actions and behaviors this past year.
What kind of person are you?
What kind of person do you want to be?
What bad things happened to you that you could have prevented?
How could you have reacted differently to things that were out of your control?
What do you do when you don’t feel like doing something?
How do you motivate yourself?
What drives you?
What do you wish you made more time for?
Are you willing to do something differently, every single day?
What is it that you want to change?
What bad habits do you want to get rid of?
From here, you probably have a good idea of what you would like to change about yourself. Now, it’s time to come up with a plan. A real, sustainable plan needs to include DAILY changes (again, please refer to my goal-setting post!). Every single day you will have to do something differently, until the point where it becomes habit. That’s where the discipline kicks in– you’ve been doing it for so long you don’t even have to think about it anymore.
What we fail to understand over and over and over again, is how much power we have over our own lives. Your dream body, your dream job, your mentality, a great relationship, a bigger savings account. What it takes, is real, hard, effort, and discipline. The question is, are you willing?
Nobody can change your life, except for you. If you want something, you have to make it happen, for yourself.
Wishing everyone a wonderful holiday and New Years 🙂 friendssss, please contact me if you need help with goal-setting, ever!!! I would love to help.