In today’s day and age, being gripped by depression and anxiety is a somewhat normal thing. Society seems to be built on what is called a “scarcity mentality.”
This is the idea that in any way, your life is lacking. Why do you think the advertising and marketing companies thrive? Why there is always a newer, better, more improved product coming out? We have literally been raised to believe that our life is missing something: “I need this.” “I need that.” Companies can get you to buy virtually anything, because you think you need it; because you think your life is lacking without it.
The scarcity mentality is constantly reinforced and carries over into all aspects of our lives. Suddenly, everything is about YOU and what you are MISSING. There’s this notion that if someone else has something, that there’s nothing left for you. Your best friend gets engaged. It turns into, “when am I gonna find a good guy???” Your brother buys a brand new car. You say, “Am I ever gonna have enough money to get a car like that?”
I’m here to break the news to you… even though it may be hard to swallow….
THERE. IS. ENOUGH. SUCCESS. TO. GO. AROUND.
Success is INFINITE! Meaning, there is plenty of it for everyone! SOMEONE ELSE’S SUCCESS IS NO WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM, TAKES AWAY FROM YOUR SUCCESS/FUTURE SUCCESS.
If this is true, then why do we become so envious of others’ success? It’s because we are living in a scarcity mindset.
Don’t worry, this is a natural way of thinking. But it can be reversed. But first, you have to realize that you are in complete control of your perception of things around you. I’m not saying you are in complete control of your emotions, because we all know that isn’t true. But, you can drastically change the way you react to things, and the way view the world around you- it all begins in your mind.
This is where, viola, I present to you… the abundance mindset. It just sounds better, right?
When you cultivate an abundance mindset, the way you see things begins to take a turn for the better. So, what does an abundance mindset look like?
Failure and the way you view failure, changes. Failure is no longer the end of the world. It is an opportunity to learn and grow. You realize that failures are a necessary part of your path to success. EVERYONE fails. But you know you have to pick yourself back up, and ask yourself “What can I learn from this?” “What can I do better next time?”
Gratitude pours out into your daily life. Instead of focusing on things you’re lacking, you take the time to be grateful for everything you do have. Everyday you make a list of things you’re grateful for– your friends, family, food in your fridge, a roof over your head, hot water, a running car. This list goes on and on of things that can be taken for granted every single day.
The negative, “scarcity” energy is cut out. Stay away from people who are always complaining, who never have anything positive to say. Cut out advertising, commercials, gimmicks, ways of companies trying to convince you you’re missing something. Do this by watching less TV. Read more books. Geek out on personal development writings and blogs. Realize that you can create your own environment of abundance; it’s your choice.
Others’ success = happiness, not resentment. You realize that everyone is on their own path, has their own purpose, and has their own timeline. Your purpose and timeline can be very different from someone else’s. It does NOT mean that they are successful, and you are not. You do not have to be fearful or jealous of your peers or competitors. You CAN be genuinely happy from them, and learn from them.
The focus turns to all the endless possibilities. We all know that things can change in the blink of an eye. Your world can be turned upside down at any minute. But, change is not the end of the world! What can sometimes be seen as a step back can be seen to others as a new beginning. Life is literally limitless and once you realize that, it’s life changing.
I hope this finds you and really speaks to you. And you decide for yourself you want to make a change. We are all capable. ❤